Where did people gather in the 19th century to discuss problems and and develop plans to take action? In parlors
How has the parlor discussion changed over time and how do women effect social change today?
Guest speaker opening remarks:
Joan Hedrick: Professor of History, Trinity College
During the 19th century their are 2 points to consider about parlor discussions:
- Gender
- Traditionally, men were in the public and women remained in the private sphere. Women were to be pious, pure, domestic and submissive.
- Men and women gathered in parlors. In parlors, women could influence men and discuss problems such as slavery and temperance.
- In Uncle Tom’s Cabin Mrs. Bird influences the Senator in the parlor. A woman has a voice there.
- Parlor encouraged women’s writing.
- Women were letter writers. They kept the bonds of family together through letters.
- Women’s voices reach outside the parlor because the letters were read aloud by the recipients.
- Literary clubs also encouraged the voice of women. Harriet Beecher Stowe’s involvement in the Semi-colon Club earned her her first publication.
- When women wrote they often wrote about pressing issues. A political voice developed.
- Today young women’s groups such as the Permanent Commission on the Status of Women’s Young Women’s Leadership Program encourage and inspire women to cultivate their skills.
- Groups like this provide networking opportunities with other women, a speakers bureau, and volunteer work.
- Women are marketed ideal images and feel that there are certain expectations they feel they need to uphold.
- The Young Women’s Leadership Program has started a House Party program to help women feel empowered and offer a space for discussion.
- In the 1960s and 70s women felt isolated and took issues very personally. When a space was opened to talk about issues it was not personal, it was systematic.
- Today, media outlets and social networking feel false and impersonal
- Topics of house parties: leadership, stress, self care, body image. All of the topics come together.
- Women come together to express vulnerabilities and issues with balancing home and work. The parties provide a sense of relief.
What about finding a voice for colored women?
- White woman’s voice was heard, but there was no outlet for less privledged, colored women.
- The Voices of Women of Color (VOWC) became their outlet.
- The group did not allow black men, white men, and white women in the first year. Now white women come in.
- The organizers of the group travelled through Hartford looking for women. They wanted to focus on the women that weren’t talked about and create a safe space.
- The group has become effective in moving from house parties to action.
- We’re leaving behind a whole bunch of women and need to challenge ourselves to do something.
- This hasn’t happened yet, which shows that there are barriers to creating spaces.
- Organizations are not doing a great job reaching out to everyone.
- Religious communities cross certain barriers.
- Creativity comes from engaging with communities we don’t normally engage with.
- We NEED to take more risks and we will become more inclusive.
- Respecting the richness of culture is critical so that one culture doesn’t dominate the other.
- Everyone has to reach out to other groups, have a dialogue, and invite them to join you for further discussion. Make it your personal mission and set personal goals.
- We have a fear of bringing other into our lives.
- Acknowledge your differences and realize what makes other people hurt.
- There are common goals such as ethics, morals, and character. It is important to educate younger generations about these goals.
- Families need to talk more and be distracted by technology and busy schedules less.
- Women can reinforce the negative. Need to come together to support other women.
- Building a community of support is key; as well as setting short term, intermediate, and long term goals.
- Problems seem huge when you are alone, but become simple with support.
- Nature of the parlor changed after civil war. It became more formal and the men were not so comfortable in fussy rooms, they went to men’s clubs.
- Were we to recreate the heterosexual mix today it may be more subversive today than it was in 19th century.
- Need to educate women about what the women who came before them fought for.
- Teaching children to respect the work of those before them because they take for granted what they have.We encourage the disrespect of the younger generation by giving in to their wants.
- Raise boys and young men to respect women
- In the past children were to be seen, not heard. Today the youth can have a voice.
- There are plenty of opportunities for political action.
- Groups can come together despite class. Agendas are different, but there can be a coalition to come together.
- Growing your own food and taking the television out of the living room seems subversive.
- Enriching things have now become subversive
- Family connections are falling by the wayside.
- Victorian parlor discussions are superior to the conversations we have today. Sitdown gatherings are deserted for cyber engagement were you pick your own environment.
- Host a house party
- Get the conversation started
- Invite people from diverse backgrounds and explore how to gather creatively
- Acknowledge privledges to promote inclusion
- Take the TV out of the living room and interact with each other
- Women should support each other
- Organize around the wage gap.
- Educate younger women about the work women have done before them.
- Understand where you are and how you got there
- Educate each other. No brother or sister should be left behind.
- Create common spaces for discussion
- Work together to create change around an issue of common interest
- Reclaim the living room and live in that room
- Raise good men
- Take a risk
1 comment:
There is one space where everyone can be comfortable with who they are...cyberspace. Cyberspace's greatest attribute is it's ability to allow everyone a voice equally. You're not judged because anonymity makes us all equals. Your opinions are judged not your dress, race, gender, age or religious convictions.
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